Do you want to know the #1 thing that leads to resentment? It’s very simple: expectations. And for sure unrealistic expectations.
Expectations are premeditated resentments.
It looks like this:
If you expect your husband to wash the dishes, and he doesn’t, your brain says, He should wash the dishes. And you feel resentment.
If you expect your kids to not fight in the car, and they do, your brains says, My kids aren’t supposed to fight. And you feel resentment.
If you expect your mother-in-law to hold the baby while you nap, and she doesn’t, your brains says, My mother-in-law should be more helpful and know what I need right now. And you feel resentment.
Husbands don’t always wash dishes, kids often fight, and mother-in-laws don’t always know the best way to help you … and that’s OK.
And that’s OK—these are my 3 favorite words for acceptance. It moves you away from expectation (read: resentment) and into acceptance.
And from acceptance, you can just breathe and be and love on all the people around you.