Do you want to know the #1 thing that leads to resentment? It’s very simple: expectations. And for sure unrealistic expectations.
Expectations are premeditated resentments.
It looks like this:
If you expect your husband to wash the dishes, and he doesn’t, your brain says, He should wash the dishes. And you feel resentment.
If you expect your kids to not fight in the car, and they do, your brains says, My kids aren’t supposed to fight. And you feel resentment.
If you expect your mother-in-law to hold the baby while you nap, and she doesn’t, your brains says, My mother-in-law should be more helpful and know what I need right now. And you feel resentment.