So much of what we do, or don’t do, is to avoid a feeling. The feeling of failure. Or disappointment. Or not-good-enough.
And then when we avoid doing the thing that would truly serve us because of our fear of those feelings, we miss out.
I like to think of it this way: in life, we’re either winning or learning. Winning means we’re getting the result we want. And if we don’t get the result we want? We can simply decide to learn from it.
Deciding we’re failures is optional. And not very helpful. Either get cozy with failure and embrace it, or just commit to deciding that you’re learning and not failing.
So pick one: winning, or learning?